Does Facebook Replace Face Time or Enhance It?
Jenny has not returned my calls in roughly a year. She has, however, sent me a poinsettia, poked me and placed a gift beneath my Christmas tree. She's done all this virtually, courtesy of Facebook, the social-networking site on which users create profiles, gather "friends" and join common-interest groups, not to mention send digital gifts. Although Jenny has three children, ages 4 to 14, and rarely finds time for visits, phone calls or even e-mail, the full-time mom in upstate New York regularly updates her status on Facebook ("Jenny is fixing a birthday dinner," "Jenny took the kids sledding") and uploads photos (her son in the school play). After 24 years, our friendship is now relegated to the online world, filtered through Facebook. Call it Facebook Recluse Syndrome — and Jenny is far from the site's only social hermit.
Although Facebook started as an online hub for college students, its fastest-growing demographic is the over-25 crowd, which now accounts for more than half of the site's 140 million active members. Why is Facebook catching on among harried parents and professionals? "It makes me feel like I have a grip on my world," says Emily Neill, a 39-year-old single mother of two. Neill isn't a techie, per se — "I'll never have a phone that does anything but make calls," says the fashion consultant in Watertown, Mass. — but she stays logged on to Facebook all day at work and then spends an hour or two — or lately three — at night checking in with old acquaintances, swapping photos with close friends and instant-messaging those who fall somewhere in between. "It makes you feel like you're part of something even if you're neglecting people in the flesh," she says.
Retreating behind a digital veil started long before the Internet existed, with the advent of answering machines. "People would call a phone when they knew the other person wasn't available to pick up," says Charles Steinfield, a professor at Michigan State University who co-authored a peer-reviewed study called "The Benefits of Facebook 'Friends.' " "It enabled them to convey information without forcing them to interact."
Enter Facebook, which provides a constant flow of information via short updates from everyone a user knows: a distant cousin is glad he skipped the cheeseburger chowder; a colleague has a new book on sale; a close friend is engaged or newly single. Jenny and I, along with three of our childhood pals from Saratoga Springs, N.Y., learned that a dear old friend had ended her seven-year relationship through a Facebook status change. We expressed dismay, albeit through Facebook's IM feature, that we had to learn such potent information in this impersonal way.
Yet for many users, Facebook somehow remains distinctly personal. Although social-networking sites typically encourage connections among strangers — like on MySpace, where people converge through common interests, or online dating, where the whole point is to greet new faces — Facebook is geared toward helping people maintain existing connections. The site serves as a self-updating address book, keeping users connected no matter their geographical shifts. "There are people from my past life that I never would have tracked through 10 job changes and 20 e-mail changes," says Nicole Ellison, an assistant professor at Michigan State and lead author of the Facebook "Friends" study, which focused on undergraduate usage of the site. Facebook offers what she describes as a "seamless way of keeping in touch that doesn't involve all this work."
Perhaps this is the key. Jenny's online sociability and offline silence probably has less to do with digital retreating than time management. Facebook offers e-mail, IM and photo sharing in what Neill calls the "one-stop shopping" of online interaction. "It's not surprising to me that it's replacing other forms of communication," says Steinfield.
It's still surprising to me, however, this combination of Orwell and WALL-E that has humans watching one another through computer screens and socializing in quasi-isolation. Neill says Facebook has brought her closer to her already close friends, whom she has little time to see because of kids and work. "I know more about them now than I did when I was in regular contact with them," she says.
I believe her. But I can't help wondering: If for some reason Facebook suddenly ceased to exist, would people like Jenny revert to phone calls or visits, or would they lose touch altogether?
I probably won't find out. Instead, I gave in. Last week I sent Jenny a note — through Facebook, naturally — requesting a get-together. She accepted. When we met up, it seemed like we were closer than I had thought. I knew about Jenny's son's part in the school play, her sledding expedition and what she'd cooked for that big birthday dinner — information we would have shared if we still lived in the same neighborhood and talked regularly, the inane and intimate details that add up to life. The constant stream of data is a digital form of closeness. "A beautiful blossoming garden of information about your friends," as Neill puts it, adding, "I don't see how that can be a bad thing."
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As mentioned by the writer, facebook has brought people very much closer in the digital world and concluded that facebook is not a bad thing afterall. I disagree to her stand to a large extent as this close virtual connection has inevitably widened the gap between people in the real world.
Facebook have totally revoluntionised the way people socialize and interact with one another. In the past, when such online socializing networks were not yet available, people spend real quality time with their friends and engage in conversations that clearly depict their emotions. All these, cannot be achieved via online social networking sites, hence making such sites a very superficial platform only for people to proudly present the best parts of their lives and hide the ugly moments. It seems that the more photos, more friends and more connections one have online shows the popularity of that person. We know of many friends who are addicted to facebook, constantly updating their profiles and uploading pictures and beautifying them. The time spent on all these have resulted in lost time catching up with close friends, engaging in leisure activities and spending time with family. Facebook has created a culture of people who rather spend time online than be out mingling in the real world.
One very detrimental effect is the gradual disability to communicate effectively with people as they may not be confident to speak face-to-face with another person after being unexposed and being behind comforts of the computer screen for a long time.
Yet, we cannot totally put the blame on facebook. This globalised world is charactized by speed and efficiency. Online socializing networks allow one to keep in touch with more than hundreds of people at one go. This flexible system of socializing definately save a lot of time for the many busy college students and working population. Moreover, people also make use of facebook to embark on online businesses to sell their products, enabling them earn money from the comforts of their own homes.
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The author mainly agrees that social-networking sites like facebook have brought people closer together and managed to use her own experience to prove it. However, in my opinion, whether or not such social-networking sites will be beneficial, it depends on the way the network is used by users as well as the personality of the users. This can be illustrated with a few examples. A user who devotes too much time on facebook would sacrifice some real quality time which he could have spent with family and friends. Likewise, users who are not serious in making real friendship will only be able to make superficial friends whom the friendship made will not last long. In addition, it also depends if the user is able to make use of the network as a tool to build stronger friendship or is he just merely using the network with no purpose. Hence, it is important for users to learn how to put these social-networking sites to good usage in order to make it beneficial in bringing people closer together.
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To me, social-networking sites such as Facebook are like a double-edged sword. It has its own benefits and defects. A benefit of social-networking sites in general is that it have made communications more easier than the past, where a message takes a long time to reach its recipient. However, these sites tend to reduce face-to-face communications which may result in deteriorating social values. Thus inorder to make full use of these sites, like mentioned by zhen wei, users should know how to use it wisely. A misuse may result in undesiarble consequences while a good use of these sites can be beneficial to us.
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